I woke up today exhausted and frustrated with his family. I texted his mom to ask about magnus and she texted me back this lengthy explanation basically saying she was waiting for me to tell her if Magnus could go to daycare or not. So I called and explained once again, that is not what I asked her to do. I let my frustration and exhaustion get the best of me and yelled and cried on the phone with her. Realized that was stupid and got off the phone.
His sister & father stopped responding to my texts after I found out she flew to vegas. None of them have texted, much less called, words of support to Chris since he has been here.
I sent this text to all three of them:
“Your son/brother isn’t stupid and he is very aware that it isn’t a priority to call or text him or visit him. His condition could turn critical overnight whether you care to face his reality or not. Your actions are not showing him love or support. His experience is horrifying and the fact that his family is choosing not to be here for him is cowardly. We have had friends drive 11 hours to see him and you who are in the same state have only excuses for why you are not here for him.”
His parents are both retired – there are no job schedules to juggle. I sent that this morning and of course his sister & father did not reply. His mom replied saying that her doctor told her she couldn’t visit him because of her sinus infection – the one she had 4 weeks ago and doesn’t have any longer. These people are beyond my understanding. She then told me that where exactly did I expect them to find the money to come visit us – hotels are expensive! REALLY? But it doesn’t cost money to drive 8 hours to watch Brenda’s kid so she can go to Vegas?
I just have to realize that communication with these people isn’t possible and trying to rationalize with them isn’t either, so I will no longer look to them for support beyond taking care of my son until I can get him here after Chris and I find a place to move and get settled in.
ad astra per aspera 